Nine years ago, right now, I was at the salon with my bridesmaids and mother, Brian was golfing with his family.
It was a typical wedding day.
Do you ever wonder what you would do differently, if given a chance? I typically don’t think of such things, as I do my best not to regret anything or question any decision I ever made in the past. But this year? If I could go back in time, I would tell that girl planning her wedding to keep it simple.
Since losing James and Jake, I see pictures of myself years, months, days before losing them. And I want to cry out "watch out, tread carefully…life will not always feel this good."
I wish I could sit down with myself back when the wedding planning began, I wonder what I would say to myself?
Just be simple. Because years from now, life is not going to be simple, it’s going to be so difficult you’ll cry more tears than you ever did as a child. And you won’t be crying because someone hit you or someone stole your stuffed dog, you’ll be crying because your heart will feel the most intense pain and loss you could have ever imagined. Life will not be simple, it’s going to be hard. You and your future husband will experience what it’s like to fight through a marriage, you’ll suffer a loss so huge you won’t know how to get out of bed each morning, but you will. Because of him, because of your children. Because you’re you. The flowers, the cake, the dress, trust me, in the long run, those things do not matter. What matters is you and him, joining hands forever, facing the future prepared for whatever bumps or valley or roadblocks lay ahead. You’ll be together, arms locked, fingers intertwined. I hope I have not made you fear your life together, by these warnings of sadness and grief, because there are many peaks, so much love and uncountable blessings.
Just tread carefully and don’t be afraid to love with all of your heart and soul.
On this day, August 7th, 1999, the only thing that matters is what brought you here today, that and the life that lay ahead.
I hope you are having a good anniversary and time away. I’m thinking of you. And petunia is enjoying her stay, too.
Steph
I hope you are having a good anniversary and time away. I’m thinking of you. And petunia is enjoying her stay, too.
Steph
Happy Anniversary! May you have many more years of love together.
Happy Anniversary! May you have many more years of love together.
A little late to the party, but Happy Anniversary!! I hope you and Brian look back at all the sweet memories you have both made together! Enjoy this day.
A little late to the party, but Happy Anniversary!! I hope you and Brian look back at all the sweet memories you have both made together! Enjoy this day.
Brilliant.
Brilliant.
When my father and I were dancing at my wedding, he said, “I am so glad that you didn’t elope. It has all been worth it.” This meant a lot as he continually joked about paying us to elope instead of planning an elaborate wedding. I responded though, knowing that I had focused too much on the details and not on the important part of our lives joining, “I wish I had eloped.”
Happy Anniversary! Here to all of us remembering what is truly important.
When my father and I were dancing at my wedding, he said, “I am so glad that you didn’t elope. It has all been worth it.” This meant a lot as he continually joked about paying us to elope instead of planning an elaborate wedding. I responded though, knowing that I had focused too much on the details and not on the important part of our lives joining, “I wish I had eloped.”
Happy Anniversary! Here to all of us remembering what is truly important.
I already told you happy anniversary, but I wanted to tell you how much this post touched my heart.
I cannot wait to see you!!!!
I already told you happy anniversary, but I wanted to tell you how much this post touched my heart.
I cannot wait to see you!!!!
Happy anniversary! Mine was Tuesday. And yes, so true, every word of it.
Happy anniversary! Mine was Tuesday. And yes, so true, every word of it.
I hope you had a nice anniversary. Did you go out?
And who the heck is Petunia? I feel so out of the loop…
I hope you had a nice anniversary. Did you go out?
And who the heck is Petunia? I feel so out of the loop…
Happy Anniversary!!
I hear you.
Happy Anniversary!!
I hear you.