I’m waiting for something to change. I’m praying for everything to be okay. But day after day things just seem to be getting worse.
Yesterday, five year old Racecar had an appointment with an ENT, his second in six weeks. We learned he’ll need surgery, tubes in his ears and adenoids removed. On the way home, sweating in the heat, my legs sticking to the seats because our car has no air conditioning, Brian calls me on my cell phone and says “someone stole my fucking tires off of my car.”
That’s right. ALL FOUR TIRES were missing. Completely. (note to all of you: everything you have heard about Gary, Indiana is totally true. Stay far, far away.) (he parks there to catch the train into Chicago)
Instead of getting air conditioning, we get to pay a $500 for the deductible to get tires put back on his car. Tires we did not remove.
This on top of about twenty things running through my mind and creating darkness in my heart that I just can’t write about. Some things are little and some are bigger than I can handle.
So, I’m waiting for the lesson, the blessing, the SOMETHING that will tell me why so much of our lives right now is just not okay. I’m waiting to FEEL again. I’m hoping, hoping, hoping that this dark cloud passes over us swiftly and without much more pain.
Worry.
Heartache.
I’m not saying that we should be excempt from anything bad happening to us, but it just seems so soon. I just really want to be left alone.
I’m trying to take it like a big girl, facing each day, but one of these days, I’m pretty sure, I’m going to pull the covers over my head and leave them there for a very, very long time.
And after pulling the covers off of my head, I just hope the sun is shining, here, with us, once again.
Beth, I am so sorry all this is happening to you. You don’t deserve it, any of it.
Sending good thoughts your way.
And I will never EVER go to Gary, Indiana. Thanks for the tip.
holy crap! they stole the tires right off his car?? remind me to avoid gary, indiana! i will never understand why everything has to go wrong at once. i hope the dark cloud passes over soon. {{{{{hugs}}}}}
So sorry about the surgery. We’ve been through the ear tube thing – feel free to email me if you have any questions. And the car thing sucks. Hope that’s the end of the bad stuff.
Oh dangit Beth. I am so sorry. Sometimes life just sucks and there is not rhyme or reason. If you need to pull the covers over your head for a while, don’t worry, we’ll all still be here rallying around you.
You’ve been contantly on my mind. I could feel it this week. Sun come out and tires fall from the sky!
Steph
I can’t relate to the tires…but I can sure relate to the air conditioning and tubes in the ears.
The air went out in my SUV two weeks ago. And I am pretty sure that I am going to die this summer! We decided not to do anything about it because my truck is older and doesn’t warrant a ton of money being put into it. I love the warm weather…but please not too warm for the next 3 months.
My youngest just had tubes put in his ears in February. It was probably the best thing…he hasn’t been sick since then. And we haven’t been to the pediatrician as we had been going weekly.
I hope things get better for you!
Beth, not a day goes by that I don’t think about you. I know it doesn’t feel like it right now, but things will get better. I promise. And try to take comfort in knowing that you have so many people who care about you.
Oh.. i am sooo sorry…
Just make sure while your covers are over your head that your hubby doesnt toot!!
Okay.. probably not funny right now…
I can promise you one thing… The sun will come up tomorrow and it will be a new day! I could suck just as bad as this one.. but it will be new.. and the day after that.. the sun comes up again!!! I promise!
Hi
so sorry to hear about the tyres and the 20 other things and about racecar.
Is it that Racecar has glue ear caused by (the doctors think) a large adenoid (possibly also large tonsils)?
If it is, i just want to say that my son Max had the same diagnosis but here in London we also got to see an allergist on top of the Ear Specialist, neurologist (he had severe balance issues) and a whole range of other specialists in various fields. Anyway, we were referred to the allergist because, apparently there is a lot of evidence that shows that glue ear, large adenoids, large tonsils are sometimes caused by allergies, in particular to eggs (the whites) and dairy. Particularly these two.
We took dairy out of Maxi’s diet (we’d been reintroducing it) and so far so very very good. I don’t know if Race Car drinks a lot of milk, eats cake biscuits and cheese etc etc but would you be able to do say 3 weeks with no cheese pizza and the likes? Alternatives like rice milk don’t taste that nice but you can always add strawberry nesquik.
Just a thought ….
Gromets surgery is not that bad so i wouldn’t worry too much but if you can. Also because some kids need it every few years and not just the once. Which is a pain.
I didn’t mean to butt in like this and be intrusive but i just thought i’d alert you to the allergy possibility.
Oh and cutting out dairy means you lose a TON of weight so if you do remove it from Racecar’s diet and his weight drops it’s pretty normal and nothing to worry about provided he is getting calcium from other sources ie. calcium enriched breads, juices, supplements, green leafy veg., sardines etc etc
suckitude. totally. (the tires? seriously? argh.) thinking of you …
and hoping the sun starts shining soon(er – rather than later).
I’ve been thinking about you so much since Wednesday and wishing that a faux-Blizzard in a waffle cup could cure all of those things. I know you’ll have that sunshine soon. I just can’t find it in me to believe that the universe wouldn’t give that you, and soon.
How on earth do you steal 4 tires without anyone noticing? That is just plain crazy!
Praying for the tides to change the way you need them to go. If you keep your chin up, you’ll feel the sunshine on your face first
That totally sucks! That sucks for that to happen to anyone! Hang in there! The sun is shining and soon you’ll feel the warmth on your face. I’m thinking of you. You can come to INdianapolis and hang out in my air conditioning! Hang in there!
I’m so sorry that you’re going through all of this. While I can’t tell you when things will get better, I know they will. The sun will shine again, I promise you that. And it might even seem brighter than ever.
Beth, this just sucks. You do need a break and you deserve one. I love you girl and I’m praying and hoping for the sun to shine on you guys and for some amazing things to happen for your family.
Oh Beth, I am so sorry. I am with everyone else- how do FOUR tires get stolen in broad daylight without anyone knowing? A$$holes.
As for Racecar, poor thing! Hopefull, having his adnoids removed and tubes put in will help him feel better- that will be a good thing.
I wish I could take some of the darkness away for you and replace it with sunshine and hope.
Oh man, poor racecar! That is just sad to hear. And I saw Brian’s pictures on FB – wow, at first I thought it was a joke, but then I realized that he was in Gary and then it all made sense. Just think, without air conditioning you’ll have the opportunity to drive with the windows down and enjoy all the fresh air. You can have my AC any day. I hope the burdens get lifted for you. Keep that beautiful chin up sweetie! You’ll make it through.
OMG! I have never heard of such a thing happening before! Keep your head up, girl.
I’ll say prayers for sweet Racecar. I know surgery like that is NO FUN, but hopefully he will feel better after…
And about the tires, that just sucks. I’m so sorry. People are mean sometimes. I will pray for extra sunshine too… hugs Beth.
I’m so sorry. Bad things seem to happen all at once and usually to people who don’t deserve it. Hang in there, sweetie.
Jeesh. This just sucks. I’m sorry that it’s all piling on to you right now. I hate how things like this go in waves and it all seems to bury you. I truly hope at least one good thing happens this weekend and things start looking up. *Hugs*
Beth,
Many hugs to you! I promise you there will be sunshine! But, most of all I want you to know that it is OK to feel like pulling the covers over your head sometimes…
Racecar will feel so much better after his surgery. I hope Ariel is doing well. My little Claire misses her dearly!
Sarah
and, P.S.- Gary sucks
I am sorry. You have already dealt with so much. I will add you to my prayers.
And tell the husband to park at Ogden Dunes instead
I can’t believe someone stole all 4 tires off Brian’s car! I know Gary, but COME ON!!! So sorry you’re having to deal with so much crap lately! Sending you hugs and hoping that things will get better for you!
WTF??
What is wrong with people?? I’m sorry to hear about your car!
Racecar will do just fine in the surgery, but it’s sucky that he has to go through it!
Hang in there – you’ve got tons of people praying that your luck changes quickly.
Oh, I’m sending huge internet hugs and happy thoughts your way. I hope that the sun is shining before you know it!
Things will get better. They always, always do. I know that it doesn’t make this easier right now, it just means there’s hope. Sorry about your car…the thief will get his due.
All my love, Beth…sometimes it is hard to see the lesson, the blessing…just know that my heart aches for you…it will get better, I promise!! xoxoxo kim
A had the same surgery as Racecar in February. It was much worse on me than on her! Let us know when it is scheduled for so we can pray! As for the tires, I’m not sure what to say other than that just sucks.
My husband is from Indiana and he always told me stories about Gary. Now I think I will believe him.
Huge hugs and prayers sent your way. I hope you find peace!
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Oh Beth, we are all here for you. I am so sorry that you are going through such a hard time right now. It will get better, it just takes one thing to turn it around.
I hope you have a better day, and I hope Racecars surgery goes smoothly.
Arrgh, Beth. That is just SO NOT FAIR!!! And what is wrong with people these days!?
You are in my thoughts today and every day.
Hang in there. xoxo
It won’t make you feel any better right now, but my son had tubes in and it went well. I know that isn’t the same as having his adnoids out though. it will be rough and on top of everything else it must just add to the pain. I once was told if you can’t take one day at a time then just take one moment at a time. Sometimes, though, even that seems hard.
Ugh, Beth, I’m so sorry things aren’t going well.
As soon as I read that the tires had been stolen from your Hubby’s car, I immediately thought Gary. What a terrible thing to happen.
I’m sorry to hear about Racecar, too. I’m sure he’s a tough little boy and will be okay in the end.
I will keep you and your whole family in my thoughts and prayers. *hugs*
Stolen tires? Well, that is certainly a new one. Praying for you and your family, Beth!
I’m so sorry, my dear. I know you’ll get through it, but I wish you didn’t have to!
Stolen tires, I read it lastnight and still an’t believe it today. Sorry about that, is there no security at the parking place? if he’s paying for parking..
Oh, geez. I’m sorry. Why do bad things seem to happen all at once?
I’m so sorry, girl! I truly hope the sunshine starts beaming down on your family soon.
Wow, what a hard day!!! I’m sorry for all you’re going through. I pray that God will show you SOON why He’s allowing these things in your life.
That really sucks about the tires. I have heard some bad things about Gary and I guess with the economy people will get more desperate. I would maybe suggest tire locks- ok- that is not the right word for them. Lugnut locks? Something like that. Maybe that will deter the next thief since they usually look for the easiest car.
I am sorry about RC. Anytime a kid has to go under the knife- it is always a concern for us moms. Keep us updated.
Have a great weekend ok?!
I’m really sorry, I wish I had something else to say. It WILL get better.
I’ve driven through Gary a number of times on my way home to Iowa to see the ‘rents. That place doesn’t even SMELL right. If you can judge a place by it’s smell (whether or not it’s evil, I mean), then the overwhelming smell of sulfur should be some indication.
(Doesn’t say much for Iowa either so I guess my analogy isn’t such a good one. haha)
Sounds like you have been handed one big crap sandwich lately. I am so sorry about the tires. That just really sucks. Your pics of your friend are so beautiful. You do a wonderful job. Very very nice.
My son has had 2 sets of tubes and his adenoids removed. Although it is hard to think about your child having surgery, he will feel so much better after it is done.
I hope things get better for you.
I use to work blocks away from the Gary train station and thank God I got out of there. I pray those bad guys can’t sleep at night. I pray that you will have brighter days ahead. Racecar will be fine, even though we hate to see our kids go surgery.
What the…, how does someone take the time to steal 4 tires off of someones car in a parking lot and NO ONE ANYWHERE SEES ANYTHING!?!?
Good grief, I hope the madness ends. That’s just ridiculous!
As for the tubes and adenoids, my 8 year old had tubes put in, and it was a blessing in and of itself, as my daughter was practically deaf before it happened, and could hear once it was done. Adenoids I hear aren’t a big deal, either. A lot of ear infections, yes? I’ve been there done that, I was a crying, nervous wreck when it happened, and she came out drunk-ish from the anesthesia, but she was fine, just groggy for a day or two. Racecar will be fine, honey. He will. And I know you will be, too.
*humongous hugs*
Time to make some lemonade!
Maybe Brians tires were needing replaced, anyway!
Tubs/Adenoids – our son had that done when he was 3. I think you will be amazed at how fast RaceCar will feel better! If he wasn’t sleeping too good at night, he will be soon. And due to the drugs he will get, enjoy a solid day of Mommy Snuggle time, a rarity for a 5 yr old boy.
The tides will turn, keep on the path!