At Blogher, there is a ton of swag. I completely underestimated the amount that would be offered to attendees, but there was about one hundred times more than I imagined.
Swag was given in multiple venues, some at parties, some brought to your room, in the Expo room where the sponsors had booths set up and then again once you registered.
I saw greed. So much greed that it made me sick to my stomach. I understand that getting free stuff is awesome because it is, I mean, the first party I attended I walked out with a free pair of Crocs and a Kodak HD pocket video camera, in pink, no less. Among many, many other goodies.
But I walked out happily and grateful with these items, I didn’t yell at party planners, scream, stomp my feet or push anyone to obtain these items.
The first party was the BlogLuxe party where they announced the winners of the Social Luxe awards. It was an awesome party. Free food, drinks, manicures, pedicures, great music, it was a fun, vibrant, hip party.

I worked with one of the organizers because she hired me to photograph the event for two hours, I saw first hand how hard each of the organizers worked to make the event the success that it was. I know for a fact they worked for months planning this event with Swiffer.
But a small dark cloud hung over the atmosphere because some attendees, attendees who were attending this party for free, were stealing extra swag bags. Women were in the lobby yelling at the young girls who were working the booth because there was no more swag available. Honestly, it was horrifying, it was embarrassing.
Unfortunately, this behavior continued through much of the conference.
We are not entitled to free stuff, companies have faith in US as writers to accept their products and be smart with what is GIFTED TO US.
It is my opinion, that the only swag that should have been guaranteed is the swag that was offered by Blogher when you registered and I only I feel this way because registration cost an attendee $300. Unfortunately, one of my friends arrived a few hours late because her son wasn’t feeling well and she walked away without her bag of swag from Blogher. Probably because someone grabbed one too many or someone who didn’t register took one.
We bloggers are a representation of each other, many of us work hard to gain integrity and trust when working with corporations, we want to maintain professionalism when dealing with large companies such as Tide, Swiffer, PepsiCo, etc.
And when it comes to the smaller companies, I think it’s important that bloggers can make them feel certain that their smaller PR/marketing budget will be put to good use when working with the strong presence of women bloggers.
I understand that when we register for this conference we are under the assumption that swag will be given to us and that is why many of individuals opt to attend. But maybe instead of running through the conference trying to GRAB AS MUCH AS WE CAN CARRY, we just accept was is available and just be grateful.
And I’m not pointing fingers at anyone in particular, I’m just wishing some people behaved differently. It scares that if mothers are behaving this way, what are we teaching our children?
I’m frustrated that so much greed existed. I’m sad for the party planners because some attendees walked into the parties and walked out thirty seconds later with their swag bags in hand.
It’s not about the swag and I’m frustrated that right now, the Blogher buzz is about the swag. (I realize that by me writing this post, I am just adding to this problem, I’m torn on publishing, I honestly am.)
I know that the majority of the attendees were kind, honest, patient people who really just wanted to meet their online community and take what they could from the sessions.
I met so many amazing people, both bloggers and individuals from PR firms and I swear to you, that TRUMPS any swag I may have received.




























It’s so sad to hear this went on! There are plenty of us who would have loved to be at Blogher. Swag, or no swag.
I loved the swag, though I did not go for the swag. It was disappointing to see how so many people behaved in regards to the swag though. Especially when you consider the cost of attending the conference, with registration, transportation, and hotel, for the most part was far more than the value of any of the swag that was given!
Beth, I was horrified by the link you posted on Twitter last night from a fellow BlogHer attendee and her attitude towards the swag. I think your post here is a good balance.
Swag is a perk but not the reason to attend. I probably wouldn’t have attended those parties because it’s not my “thing” yet I would have gone to hear amazing speakers and meet some of my bloggy mentors and friends (like you) in person for the first time.
While I’ve attended conferences in the past as a teacher, that swag was NOTHING like what you all received in Chicago. I never “expect” swag but, as I said, it’s a nice perk…a frosting on the meeting-my-bloggy-friends cake.
One uncharitable thought about that link…someday she’ll meet someone who believes like her but is bigger, pushier, and greedier than her. Everything that goes around come around. “Survival of the fittest” still means there’s someone higher up the chain that can take you down a notch.
I’m a big believer in karma, those who were greedy will get the tables turned one day. You hit it, what message is it sending to the kids! I know you had a blast but thanks for making it real. Future attendees will glad to be aware of what can happen.
I’m glad you posted this. That kind of behavior is shameful – foot stomping and pushing? What are you, 8?? I realize no one is perfect, and I like shiny new stuff as much as the next gal, however – it is just stuff. I was under the assumption that you attended Blogher for the experience and perhaps to learn new things. (?)
I’m also glad to hear most of the adults there behaved appropriately. Will we get to see any of your pictures from the Swiffer party?
I’m sad the swag got out of control…or rather the bloggers got out of control. I was so looking forward to the fun “LOOK WHO I MET” posts!
I know, I tweeted about this too much yesterday and added to the noise, too.
I’m glad you posted this, too – I’ve also read a lot of negative things about the swag-getters & givers at Blogher, and I’m glad you shared your perspective. It is disappointing, and it is scary to think what our children learn when we act this way!
It amazes me that adults act that way. So sad. Like others, I’m a firm believer that “what goes around, comes around”. It may take a while to “come around”, but it always does.
Hope you had a fantastic time anyway, and I can’t wait to see your pictures!
BTW, I almost fainted when I saw that you met THE PIONEER WOMAN!!! She rocks.
The more posts I read about Blogher, the happier I am that I didn’t attend. With all the hoopla about swag and mothers and babies, who needs it. I have enough stress in my own life without stuff like this. My soul purpose in going would have been to meet some of the people I read everyday. Period!
I totally understand and I really wanted to get this negative post out of the way because the rest of blogher? Was awesome. Really, really awesome.
first I just want to say that I am sorry I didn’t get to meet you! bummer!! second, this is one of many posts that I have read about this – and I am so shocked! where was my brain that I didn’t see any of this? I think I was in a bubble that day!
Thanks for sharing your perspective. I would love to attend blogher in the future. I hope that can happen. I have been looking forward to reading about the events. This greed an pettiness is sad. I am glad you highlighted the hard work of the sponsors and planners. They probably don’t hear much positve, just the negative.
I enjoy your blog. Thanks
This makes me really sad! I am only 2 hours away from Chicago, and I almost snagged a last minute ticket. However, then some family things came up and I declinded. I was sad during the weekend, but after hearing all the reports I’m glad I did! I have heard very little about good speakers, a tad about fun connections, and a lot about negative experiences.
Beth: You know what it is taking others longer to learn, and some never will. “It is best to use your powers for good!” That’s why you are beautiful both inside and out! Destiny
I know this was only a small portion of the event, and most of it was fun, but I have to tell you this behavior would have likely deeply dampened my experience had I gone. Why? Because I take things like this to heart. It affects me more than it likely should. I can only hope that if I go to an event in the future, this type of junk doesn’t go on.
Thank you for being honest. I know there have been a lot of “negative” posts about blogher, and people might be tired of reading it, but I don’t see the post as being negative. You are only reporting on the facts of the event.
Fact: it was fun.
Fact: you met awesome people.
Fact: there was greed galore…
It’s just a fact.
Nell
“It scares that if mothers are behaving this way, what are we teaching our children?”
This is what I’ve been thinking about as I’ve read some of the horror stories of this year’s conference. If my child yelled at someone because they were out of a gift, I would be mortified. How are our children supposed to learn if we’re not setting the example? I’m not saying that I don’t make mistakes (I do!) but to yell because you didn’t get something that you’re not even entitled to?
Blah.
I’ll be on my best behavior next year. Hope to see you there!
Amen!
I want to go next year, but I’ll be honest, I’m a bit frightened.
I think some of these people should be ripped of their Blogher privileges and denied registration for all eternity. What balls to say these things in a blog is just ridiculous. I can’t get over how rude and greedy people can be!! YOU ROCK!! Congrats on your ‘EyeCandy’ award, I voted LOTS!!
Thank you for posting this. I was so overwhelmed by the whole event, but after thinking on it for a few days, I am cool with it. I met some amazing bloggers and that was what was truly important to me, not my Kodak swag bag that I didn’t get because I was in line behind the stealy, pushy chicks.
It was a swag mess. This being my first BlogHer I had heard over and over from previous attendees “bring an extra suitcase it’s a lot” so I think a lot of people were expecting to be covered in swag. I think BlogHer offering “lobby passes” or “expo only” passes was a mistake. I think people were trying to get their money’s worth or there was just far too many people to handle or weren’t there for the right reasons. I walked away with what BlogHer gave me, the expo floor gave me and one swag bag from a private party I was invited to at the last minute. I am happy. I met awesome people and that is the only thing I will remember and want to do again. I have $22 to go buy a vibrator if I really want one.
It’s just not BlogHer with these types of problems. I use to be in the scrapbooking business and started to hate going to the big conventions because of the greed. It still makes my stomach turn thinking about it.
I keep seeing and reading about how greedy some bloggers were, your post was well written and I’m glad you published it.
It’s sad that blogging has become more about free stuff and “give me’s” than writing. Hopefully some other bloggers will get the idea.
On another note, I can’t wait to hear more about your awesome parts of blogher.
I don’t think you’re at all adding to the negativity, but rather giving a thoughtful look at something that needs to be talked about. I love free stuff as much as the next person, but reading some of the lengths people went to to get free stuff is appalling. It makes you wonder what their intent was in attending BlogHer, which is sad.
I also can’t wait to hear more about the awesome parts of BlogHer–hopefully soon and in person!
I witnessed it once that weekend and it was scary. It is something that needs to be talked about, and I think you did a fine job of expressing some thought on it.
P.S. I said hi to you and you were so lovely. AFter you walked away I literally smacked my forehead as I realized she probably has no idea who the heck I am.
Congrats on your Best Eye Candy Blog!
Bravo….for sayin’ like it is! Take guts – you’ve got loads.
I wasn’t there but would love to have been (and it would have turned my stomache too).
Ahem….I’m a bit busy getting ready for our second trip to China to bring home our new daughter.
PS. congrats on your award – well deserved….ahem….I voted….oh….a gazillion times is all!
Oh my goodness, I totally understand what you’re talking about! Now I didn’t go to Blogher (cause, well, I don’t blog…) but I work in retail and see this every.single.day. It’s the sense of entitlement that REALLY makes me mad. I’m in charge of getting the new folded clothes out onto the floor, and several times I have been stopped to be asked “Well, are you going to get it in this size?” I *politely* say yes but I just haven’t gotten to that box yet, then they tell me, “Well, can you go ahead and get it out of that box for me?” Sorry, but wth?!? Greed = bad. (sorry this is so long – I needed to vent)
woah…interesting. being in my own world (you may laugh) I hadn’t really wrapped my brain around blogher, and what it’s all about. it sounds like a fun way to meet other bloggers, but some women are just mean. i have enjoyed reading about everyone’s experiences at blogher because it does sound like fun, hissy fits excluded, lol!
I am sad that this does not explain anything about my haunting beauty to your masses.
Yeah, I was pretty horrified by people. It seemed to bring out the worst in people, the free shit. Makes me really sad.
Greed. Nasty, ugly word.
Glad you posted about your feelings on the event and the unfortunate circumstances.
Why ignore the elephant in the room?
It is what it is, and it’s your duty to be nothing but honest to the readers, because if not, then you’re just writing fiction.
Kudos to you for being honest.
Excellent! I applaud you for saying what needed to be said. There is no excuse for that kind of behavior out of grown women. Shame on them! All I have to say is, You, my dear, have Class!
You have most certainly NOT added to the problem with this post. This is the one that more people need to read.
I saw several blogs prior to BlogHer that so reeked of the “entitlement” attitude before the event even began, I was afraid it would turn into something like it has. Sadly, what most of those people don’t realize is, not only do they give themselves a bad name to PR companies, they give a black-eye to Moms and the entire Mom-Blogging community. I can’t tell you how many comments I’ve seen that basically said, “Those Mom-Bloggers aren’t half as big a deal as they think…”, “It’s called BlogHER, not BlogMOM…”, “Know I now why the kids in my child’s preschool are such brats, their moms must be bloggers…”, so on and so forth. All thanks to a greedy few.
It’s sad. And wrong. On so many levels.
Let me start by saying that the only bummer of BlogHer for me was that I didn’t meet a lot of people I wanted to see for sure – like you! But that is partly because I stayed away from the parties for the reasons you cite above. I was just monumentally disinterested in all the stuff and actually only brought home the Mr. Potato Head for my child. I didn’t want most of what was on offer and even if I had, I had no interest in fighting people for it.
So what did I do instead of going to the parties? I went out to dinner with some smaller groups of women I really wanted to get to know and spent hours talking to them. To me, that was the true value of the conference (oh, and also getting to go to the sessions and meet Lisa Stone in person.)
I wasn’t at Blogher but it’s unfortunate that this is pretty much all people are talking about. Its too bad that a group of greedy freebie lovers had to ruin it for everyone else. Hopefully this will shame them enough to not repeat their insanity next year.
Swag. Smag.
It was honestly overwhelming, and I came home with very little swag in comparison. It felt like a die-hard swag competition.
BlogHer is so much more than that….Thanks for pointing this out!
Ugh….entitlement….I think that is the attitude that I have the hardest time with. Blogging crazies aside, I think it is one of the biggest problems we face in America. Glad you published this…&looking forward to hearing the fun parts, too!!
I didn’t go to BlogHer, I live near Chicago and really wanted to for awhile. But as it got closer, I bowed to the “what if?” pressure and thought I’m really not part of that crowd. Now after reading some of the tweets and blog posts I see I am right – I’m not part of that crowd.
Beth, you posted an honest perspective, not a negative post in my opinion. I can’t wait to read about the positive parts of BlogHer once people get past the swag. It’s sad that the greed of a few can ruin the experience for many.
So, who did you meet that you were really looking forward to meeting? What was the most informational thing that you took away from any of the sessions? There – just gave you 2 more blog topics – LOL!
This post was NEEDED. I’m glad you posted it, and I couldn’t agree more with you.
YEs, yes, yes. I agree completely. After Thursday’s hideous swag grabs and the horror of people stealing at the SocialLuxe party, I felt a little sick anytime I got into any situation that felt like I was “trying” to get swag. Amazingly, I still ended up with more stuff, but it is too bad that a segment of greedy, horrible women ruined the fun and generous environment with their behavior.
“Stuff” will never make anyone happy or fill that aching void. Period. Doing the right thing? Connecting? Putting others first? That’s where the goodness of life lies.
What’s swag this year is what gets tossed out in next Spring’s feverish de-cluttering project.
All that’s left is what your HEART got out of the experience. And I bet your sweet heart will still be full of great things when the de-cluttering’s done.
Interesting! And a very well-written post, too. I couldn’t agree with you more. I didn’t go to Blogher, but have experienced these types of people in my daily life, too.
I saw this behavior in full action a few years ago at a very large star-studded 4th of July party. There were swag bags filled with all kinds of goodies. People pushed and shoved to get their “share” which was as many as they could carry away with them. The thing that killed me was … the “guests” at this party took the flowers, decorations, potted plants, planters, liquor from the closed bar, bottles of wine. My boss got a bill from the party stager for thousands and thousands of dollars for replacing the items that were lifted. The greed amazed me. Pigs.
There’s a reason that “greed” is one of the seven deadliest sins (it is, right?). I see ramifications of “greed” in my own back yard when it comes to stupid little things like the “couponing rage” – which around here, is ALL the rage. I tried getting in on it, but the greed of everyone else ruined it for me. How can people be so selfish just to save a few bucks or get something for free.
I’m glad you posted this and I hope the greedy little turds feel a slight twinge of guilt for being called on the carpet!
A-to the-men.
You said this so well!
(And congrats on your award!)
I think you said it wonderfully, and I’m glad you published it.
When did swag become expected and more important than the community?
Sad.