YOU people amaze me. I can’t tell you how lucky I feel to be able to express something so personal to me and ask for help and so many of you share your personal experiences and thoughts with me. AMAZING.
And yes, we have decided (for now) to continue with our original desire and NOT find out. I’m excited about this.
Except I’m MORE than excited about it but words are failing me right now.
My sister, Sarah, who does not have a blog (which is totally annoying), well, this is her:
She’s my best friend and my sister which makes me the LUCKIEST person alive. I took this photo of her on Friday while she was visiting, her last visit before she delivers baby #3, she’s due on December 15th and she does not know the gender. (like me, she found out via ultrasound with her first two.)
It’s really exciting except her personality type, she realizes, is not the type to NOT find out, it’s kind of killing her because she wants to prepare but feels she can’t prepare the way she’d like.
She’s due in less than a month and I’ll be one of the lucky people in the room when this baby is born.
I get to be one of the first people to know whether this baby is A BOY or A GIRL. And when I witness that moment, that amazing, miraculous and historic moment, I want to be able to decide for myself whether or not I want that moment, too.
(this is my sister, my Mom and I on Saturday having a fabulous time shopping and eating cupcakes.)
And I know, way deep inside that not only will my sister and I both be having our third babies within a few months of each other, but we’ll also both experience one of the biggest surprises life has to offer.
Just another wonderful, amazing thing we’ll have in common.
Not finding out the sex of our baby was the best choice we ever made. Talk about life’s GREATEST surprise.
(Boy, did I feel silly in that delivery room when the baby I was SURE was a girl turned out to be a boy!)
Have fun!!!
You did not just make me cry this early in the morning.
I love that photo of the three of you and Sarah and her big, gorgeous belly, and yes, I agree it is SO annoying that she doesn’t have a blog. I can’t wait to hear about the moment that you all find out what she’s having.
i wish I had the fortitude to NOT find out but I have monthly ultrasounds and having that temptation dangled in front of me every 3-4 weeks, well I just don’t think I could keep myself from asking (or seeing)
YAY!!! i love that you’re not finding out. (even just for now, but hopefully for good!)
and sarah is beautiful….and yes, annoying with the no blog.
love that photo of the 3 of you. perfect.
sisters rule.
Erin, I totally understand, I have ultrasounds at least every four weeks, if not more often…it’s going to be interesting to say the least, but we’ll do the best we can!
The pictures are perfect! Especially the one of you girls and your Mom! You are so lucky to have each other and I am so glad that you know that and appreciate it! Still praying for you daily!!
So beautiful.
Steph
Yay! I’m so happy you have decided to try to wait and not find out. It truly was one of the most amazing experiences to have that big surprise at the end. Especially since mine were planned c-sections, so I already knew the exact date and time they would be arriving. The surprise of not knowing every last detail ahead of time was wonderful! Plus – you get the fun of shopping for both a boy and girl coming home outfit!
WoooHooooo! Welcome to the crazy club (because you do realize, most people will find you crazy). I’ve been a member 3 times now and it’s the best – when you finally get the opportunity to know. Nothing can compare!
And planning-schmanning. I’m an interior designer and have resisted the urge to nursery design gender specifically every time.
Congrats!
So wonderful Beth! You and your Sister are both gorgeous pregnant!
You will obviously be thrilled, either way. And so will your sister.
I wonder if it helps that both of you already have children of each gender. I have friends who waited on principle, but inside, they were DYING for that girl (or that boy) that it drove them absolutely batty for the last 3 months of their pregnancy. In the end, they concluded it would have been better to know than to endure the cycle of hope-suspense-consolation.
(I’m a FIND OUT AS SOON AS POSSIBLE girl, so I admire your restraint. I could never do it. To me, it’s surprise no matter when I find out. And since my births tend to be so surprising in of themselves, I feel like I’ll have enough of a surprise that day to make me feel like I’m living on the edge.)
It sounds perfect for you. And whatever is perfect for you and your family is what is right. (Even if we all REALLLLY want to know!)
That is so special to share something like that with your sister!
Glad you stuck to your guns! Exciting!
Pretty ladies-great shots!
I didn’t get a chance to post yesterday but I wanted to say DO NOT FIND OUT. It nearly drove me insane NOT finding out… but that moment in the delivery room when I wanted to give up and I reminded myself I had to push through (harhar) in order to not only meet my baby but to know if it was a boy or a girl gave me the added boost I needed. And there have never been sweeter words than the dr saying “It’s a BOY!” and then my husband looked at me with tears in his eyes and said “Thank You”.
You and your sister are so beautiful! I love your bellies…I am so glad you both will be surprised at the gender of the baby.
I think that is awesome. Ohmygoodness you ladies are all beautiful!
Yay! My sister and I had our babies 20 weeks apart and neither of us found out the sex. I got to be there when her son was born and it was the most magical moment aside from my own daughters birth!
I love to hear you talk about Sarah. Your love for her is so obvious and out there and wonderful.
You guys are too cute.
Eeeee!
It makes me so excited for you!!!
You are gorgeous, and your sister is simply radiant, a mere four weeks away from delivery!
I can’t wait to see your pictures and read your account of the day!
(and, on an unrelated note, I totally just put “http://www.gmail.com” in the “Website” field. LOL! Not quite…)
Ooh, you guys are so beautiful – I love the picture of you both with your mom! And, yeah, your sister & I are due 3 days apart! I can’t imagine not knowing!!!
Well, this way, you can always change your mind. If you went ahead and found out, you wouldn’t be able to change your mind.
Also, my ‘babies’ are so old (birthdays next month will have them at 30 and 27) that finding out was not an option, and my hunches were wrong both times. Of course, there was not nearly as much STUFF for babies then as there is now. Somehow, we managed.
Look at your mom’s windblown hair! How fabulous.
I can’t wait to hold and squeeze and love and punch your mystery baby.
So fitting that your post is about your sis today. We were chatting on twitter earlier about what to dip in peanut butter. ; )
She’s gorgeous and so are you and your mom. Heck, the whole family is! I’m so excited to find out what both you ladies are having! WHEE!!!
I commend you on your decision! And I’m so happy for you!
Those are beautiful pictures!
I’m so happy you aren’t planning to find out. I just think it is the best moment ever when that precious little baby comes and you get to hear those wonderful words. I promise you will never forget it. I love the picture. You are all so beautiful!
Beautiful photos! It is so special that you get to share being pregnant together and have children close in age.
Wow! your post is making me smile so much! I love that you and your sister are pregnant at the same time. That is something I have always thought would be so much fun!
And you are also making me not want to find out, of course, when the time comes!
You two are so pretty, just like your Momma!
I can’t wait for all these babies! It really is the best surprise EVAH!
That is a GORGEOUS shot of your sister. I wish I had had a skilled photographer and looked that freaking amazing when I was preggo!
Welcome(or soon anyway) to the moms of 3 kiddos club. Things get really interesting when the kids outnumber the parents.
What a wonderful thing for you and sister to go through together. My sibs have 1, 2, and 0 kids- they think I’m crazy.
Btw, I’m rooting for a girl for both of you, just because I have total girl envy.
What a beautiful post about your sister…the photos are AMAZING!!!
It is so special that you guys get to share being pregnant together!
good gracious this is beautiful. she is so lucky to have you there.
I love the idea of you not finding out the sex until the baby arrives. It’s the best surprise ever.
I can’t believe how much you sisters and your mom all look alike — and all of you are beautiful!
I can’t believe how much you two sisters and your mom look alike — and all are beautiful!
You have an amazing family. Excellent blog BTW! I will be back for sure!
The family resemblance is absolutely amazing. You ladies just look so happy!
I didn’t find out what we were having with either of my girls and I can tell you that there is no greater surprise than hearing what God has gifted you and then holding them in your arms. I wish you all the best!
You both look so radiant and happy. I didn’t find out for either of my children and it was the best thing. We had a boy first, I was sure that the second was a boy through the whole pregnancy, but she was a girl. What a magnificent surprise, her father burst into tears, it was a wonderful moment.
Awwww, you and your sister are SO CUTE.
How special to be pregnant at the same time!
Hubby and I have talked about NOT finding out the sex of our third when that time comes. We have found out for the first two, and we have one of each, so why not?! (I think as the ultrasound approaches I will doubt that decision though!)
The last picture of you and your sister’s bellies and your proud Mama in the middle just made me very happy!
Nell
We found out with our first, a boy, but my husband was adamant about not finding out with our second. I really wanted to, but gave in and the farther along I got the easier it was. I had a c-section and the doctor pulled the baby out and a few seconds later announced “It’s a boy!”…it was awesome! So awesome that now I am 21 weeks along with our 3rd and have no desire to find out until the birth…yes, it would be cool to know if it’s a girl because I would go crazy shopping (our house is all boy and John Deere!), but it was so fun not finding out that I don’t feel anxious about it at all. Plus, in our family anyway, there’s not quite the same air of excitement about the third pregnancy as the first, so it gives you something to keep everyone waiting for
One more thing – in the last year, two of my friends were told by the ultrasound they were having girls and one found out at the birth it was a boy instead and the other found out 2 weeks before her due date it was a boy instead! At least you can avoid that by not finding out
I will pray for her right now.
You three ladies are gorgeous! And you all have such beautiful families.
I have told Sarah she needs a blog since I learned what a blog was, which incidentally the first one I ever read happened to be yours! You two are some of the most hilarious, loving, caring, honest people and best writers I know. And you are both just the cutest little pregnant ladies ever! Love you both!
simply beautiful! You 3 ladies are absolutely gorgeous! I love this post and what it means to you!