It’s never my intention to not stop in and write a little something on my blog. I really enjoy blogging which is the only reason why I do it. I love that I don’t feel like I have to post because advertisers expect me to. I love that I am the editor-in-chief. I love that I make the decisions on how, when, where…
but mostly what I love is having a relationship between my readers. The rest of the stuff is just icing on the cake.
I don’t have much to tell you except I have SO MUCH to tell you. Anna lost her first top tooth the other day and she looks so old, Noah told me he really likes it when people compliment his behavior, I held my mini-sessions on Saturday and had so much fun that I can’t believe I get to do this for a living, Brian keeps being supportive and amazing and is somehow becoming funnier every single day. My house is messy and I clean it and it gets messy again. Every minute of my life is taken up with something. Eli is growing and makes the best noises with his mouth. He pops his lips and he says “MAMAMAMA…MOM!” Oh, it’s cute.
But my heart and my brain go back to the other night when I was having dinner with my soul sister. Her cell phone rang and it was Brian. MY HUSBAND. Eli had fallen out of the highchair and he was in the emergency room.
My body was cold and shocked and so scared. so scared. He had fallen onto his head, nothing to break his baby boy fall.
The tray of the highchair feels secure, it makes a noise like it’s latched, you get the sense of security but what we didn’t know is that when it’s pushed on from the babies’ side, it falls. To the floor.
And baby follows.
Eli seems to be okay. We are in the midst of our observation period (which gives us parents so much responsibility to WATCH EVERYTHING.) His poor forehead is swollen and black and blue, his eye swollen.
I’m so sad for him and I’m so sad for my husband’s heart, who was just making dinner for the older kids when it happened but can’t help but to blame himself.
It is so not his fault.
I’m trying not to be angry at myself for being selfish and taking time to be with my best friend.
I’m just trying to ONLY be grateful that he’s back to popping his lips, saying “MAMAMAMA” and to have the responsibility to watch this precious, amazing, beautiful little boy all day long.
So, I’m here.
I’m just busy.
I was getting a little worried about you for a sec!! So sorry to hear about Eli!! That really sucks! Glad he seems to be doing OK, safe to keep a close eye on him though! Please tell Brian that it happens and there was nothing he could have done. He doesn’t have to beat himself up about it. And, you shouldn’t feel guilty about doing something good for yourself!! Hang in there!
I was getting worried too. But then remembered you have a baby!! LOL I think we enjoy your writing so much we just miss you when you’re living your life.
I’m sorry to hear about Eli falling. I too feel bad for your husband. It’s never fun to be the parent in charge when something happens. Hope Eli is doing well. And really … try your hardest not to feel guilty. Because really, that doesn’t help at all. It just makes you feel worse and you shouldn’t.
Take care!! Keep us posted on Eli.
That is so scary and could happen to anyone. In fact, it’s called an accident and in fact, an accident can happen in the blink of the eye. I am so glad your little guy appears to be fine- let’s hope it stays that way. We had our own little scare with our little dude- 2 yr old Anthony. He fell into the lake and we found him submerged- I only looked away for 2 seconds. You can read about it on my blog, if you like. He’s fine, I’m fine. Now : ).
Oh, poor Eli! And poor Brian! I’m glad to hear Eli is back to his silly babbling, but what a scare. I hope you and Brian can get over your guilt-you at taking time for YOU, and Brian for doing what ALL parents do every day, by trusting the high chair to keep your child in place while you tend to other meal prep. Keep us posted.
Poor Brian
I hope his heart starts healing soon.
Poor Eli
I’m so glad he’s back to making those sweet baby sounds 
Poor YOU! Don’t EVER, EVER, EVER be angry at yourself for taking time for YOU! You deserve the time to rejuvenate and feel like Beth again.
Sending you all hugs from here ~
Tina
Praying right now for lil Eli..that he would heal just fine, and praying for you and your husband to have peace.
What a cute family you have:)!
OK- I don’t know what is in that NWI water these days, but let’s keep everyone’s kids out of the hospital, OK??
So sorry to hear about Eli’s fall. I wish him a speedy recovery and remind you that this is neither your fault or Brian’s fault.
Hi wow thats not nice for you all. I guess that when we have children these things happen they are nobodies fault . I think from experience that when you have a number of chldren ( I have 4) there is one that is more accident prone , for me it was my son we wre always at A & E he survived and is now 22 ( next week)
Love your blog
I’m so sorry about Eli! I can imagine how scary that was for your family. I hope he continues to heal & recover quickly. ((hugs))
Oh Beth, I am so sorry! I will think happy healing prayers for Eli.
Oh I am so sorry! What a scare!! One time when my oldest was around 7 months old, her tray fell of and I ran across the room and caught her right before she fell off the chair. It scared the living daylights out of me so I always made a point thereafter to strap her in.
Sad to say, now that I have my youngest, I never strap her in. Now that I’ve read this, I’m going to so although I’m sorry this happened, I’m thankful for the reminder.
I hope your precious baby is feeling better and thank goodness he’s okay! *hugs*
Oh I’m so sorry about Eli! I hope he continues to recover quickly. ((hugs))
I’m so sorry to hear about this-I will be praying for a quick recovery for little Eli and peace for you and your family. Sounds like he’s doing pretty good if he’s back to making his wonderful baby noises
. My mom went threw this kind of situation with me. I was in a shopping cart at a grocery store -she turned around for a minuet and I fell out landing on my head. I’ll be 27 next month.
This is exact thing happened when Dan and I went to a water park this summer! My mom was watching Evan and he fell out of the highchair. Evan was okay but his forehead was all black & blue, he also had a huge bump under his eye. It was awful. He was okay when we got home (He didn’t need to go to the ER) but I felt super guilty for leaving him because I was out having fun while he was home.
My heart almost broke more for my mom than Evan. She felt so unbelievably guilty and miserable.
I’m so very glad to hear that Eli is okay and back to saying “mamamama”. Also, I can’t wait for our session!
Wondered where you’ve been. I’m so glad Eli is ok. I know it was really scary. Hope things calm down and we totally need to see that precious baby that lost her tooth!
Oh Eli! Don’t DO things like that to your momma!!
I’m so glad he’s okay. When Munchie was about a year we went to visit my brother and SIL. We had borrowed a travel high chair that sat on top of a regular kitchen chair. Munchie was able to push her little feet against the kitchen table and flip over backwards. Twice. It was horrible watching her little head CRACK on the hardwood floors.
But she was fine. And so is Eli. Phew.
I’m glad to hear that he seems to be back to his normal self. And even if you had been home, would you have been standing there right next to him in order to catch him? Probably not. There is nothing you or Brian could have done to avoid this *accident*. ((hugs)) mama!
Poor Eli! Poor you! Poor Brian!
I hope that Eli is on the mend…so scary! But absolutely it’s not your fault or Brian’s fault. I have this sense of dread about what our first big accident will be. Not that I don’t babyproof, try to keep R safe, etc. But because I fear, especially as R becomes more and more mobile, that something like what happened to Eli can happen in a split second. And trust me…I’m not asking for trouble…but I feel like I have a constant fear in my heart of not being there for R every single second of the day.
Hang in there, and keep us posted on how Eli is doing!
Hate that for all of you involved. Glad to hear that Eli is doing fine. A similar thing happen to us. On Thanksgiving. With 60 family members present. The tray just popped off and the baby went with it. My foot kind of broke his fall, but there was no catching him. So scary, but everyone was fine. The trauma lasted much longer for me and my husband than the baby, which I’m sure is true for y’all too.
Love that he is saying momma!
Thanks for sharing…don’t stop!
Poor baby, mama, and daddy! Seriously, what an absolutely awful feeling to have. I was the parent who was home when my oldest got injured, and I felt so so guilty about it, so I completely empathize with your hubby.
Oh, poor liitle guy! Sounds like he’s already feeling better but I know how scary something like that can be. Please don’t feel guilty though. xo
Oh poor little Eli. Don’t blame yourself, your husband, or let your husband blame himself. My son has a dent in his forehead. I blame myself, it was all my fault. He tumbled down the stairs and hit the corner molding at the bottom. I know it was an accident but everytime I brush back his hair and see that little dent I think “why didn’t I just…” fill in the blank a million times over. He had a Cat Scan and came back fine but it was so scary. No product is every 100% safe or childproof and we just can’t keep our eyes glued to our children 24 hours a day.
By the way where are the toothless pictures? Toothless smiles are so cute
I know how crazy scary it can be when your little one gets hurt. I’m thinking of you and hoping your observation period ends with nothing to observe.
scary! so glad he’s okay.
Oh, that poor, sweet face! And both your poor, sweet hearts! He will be fine – something tells me that eventhough he looks like no one caught him, some others truly did. Big brothers tend to do that.
How scary for you all! When my oldest was 4 months, my hubby picked up a tissue to blow his nose and the baby crawled off the bed. When he was 18 months- I hollered at him to get down from his nightstand and he jumped off onto his bed and fell onto his footboard and had a black eye for 6 months. (yes. 6 MONTHS). Point being- it happens to all of us. It doesnt make it less scary- but please try and comfort Brian and let him know it happens and help him feel better. Im sure his heart is broken that it happened on his watch.
And sweet little Eli- he will be good as new before you know it! hang in there, watch him close! and kiss his little head
My dad was always so overprotective that my mom would tell him I could actually get hurt falling out of my safe little rocking chair. Too true! You can’t beat yourself up over it because accidents do happen no matter how vigilant you are. I am so jealous that Eli says “mom!”
I bet that was very scary for everyone. Eli sounds like a tough cookie. It’s amazing how babies bounce back from falls. God put a pillow under him to make the fall easier.
I knew something was up when I saw a comment you left for Amy asking if she heard about Eli. I’m so sorry. That had to be so scary. It really is nobodies fault. Lisa is right. They call them accidents for a reason. She had her own scare this week with little Anthony. Give Eli a kiss for me and try not to vlame yourself or Brian. It is so not either of your faults. ((HUGS))
It is scary how quickly things can happen. While I know my husband is more than capable of taking care of all of our children, I can’t help but say a little prayer every time I leave to run an errand or pick up someone from practice.
I pray that Eli heals quickly just as much as I pray you and Daddy do too.
Poor baby!! Every baby has to fall from something. I think there’s a rule somewhere.
Hope he heals quickly!
Oh my goodness!!! Bless your heart! I can’t imagine how terrified you were. I get scared when my baby just falls a few inches and gets a bump! Give that little cutie some extra snuggles
Oh Beth that is so sad, I can imagine how you all must have felt. wishing eli a speedy recovery, and mum and dad as well!.
When I was around Eli’s age my parents dropped me on my head onto the concrete from the stroller. They were lifting the stroller up the back steps, and my dad lifted higher then my mom and I just slid out. Face plant.
This kind of thing happens to every parent.
Glad to hear he’s doing better!
Hugs!
echoing all the poor all of you’s! So glad he is not seriously hurt, although it might take you and Brian a bit longer to recover.
Whoa – that is scary, but I’m sure he’s going to be just fine. Parent guilt always sucks. Extra hugs and kisses (for Eli too! Lol!)
I totally understand how you feel Beth. It seems like it only takes a nano-second for something to go wrong and then we are left with sadness and guilt. Believe me I know about the guilt. And I know about accidents. And I know that you have to forgive yourself. And I know you will. And I know you are nothing short of amazing. And I know you know I am thinking about you and your sweet Eli. Keep on keepin’ on. It’s all we can do.
Awe poor kiddo.
These things happen. I had Lucas in his vibrating chair on the floor like I was supposed to and he was behind me about 6 feet while I was painting cabinets. We have dishes my grandmother painted hanging up and I knocked on down… hit him square in the face. He was around 4.5-5 months old. I was horrified and poor guy. I remember his exact face after it happened.
Oh my goodness, that is scary! I’m glad he is O.K.
A picture of toothless girl?
Awww! Poor Eli! Prayers going up for little man and your family! I’m glad he is okay! I can’t imagine how scared you and your husband were.
Been there and yes I feel like failure, guilty, and heartbroken. Am actually tearing up a bit. Mason fell off the changing table, when i was holding on to him, bending down picking up his shirt – I was stupid, but he is ok.
So glad to hear Eli is talking and not still in the hospital. Love and Prayers!
Anne
How scary! Extra hugs.
oh poor Eli and poor Brian. i know how hard it is on the parent who has the misfortune of being the present parent during an accident. i hope he forgives himself … and i trust eli is okay. *hugs* all around.
I am sooo sorry to hear that Eli hurt himself.
That is so scary. And poor Brian…it could have happened to anyone of us. Hope Eli and Brian are both feeling better. Give them both lots of snuggles!
Oh, that sucks when that happens. I remember when my oldest fell off the bed, she was probably about 6 months old. I called my husband crying saying I would never take my eyes off her again, I was sure of it. I’m sure he’ll be fine and you totally deserve a night out!
Poor lil’ Eli…I hope his injuries are healing well and you all are, hopefully, over the hump of worrying about any other issues. Feeling selfish for having dinner with a friend, say what? Please tell me you have let that go…cause that is just crazy talk. I also hope Brian is feeling better…that is so tough when it happens on your “watch.”
Paige had a high chair incident a few months back…no hitting of the head, but she had completely shimmied her whole body so she was STUCK at the hips in one of the little leg openings. I seriously thought I was going to have to call 911 because I could not get her out for anything. But, thankfully after carrying her screaming self over to the neighbors in it, he was able to help me get her out. At that time, I had not had her buckled in (this was on MY watch) because she was still fairly little and the tray locked in place tight up to her, so I never pictured any sort of issue…well, I had no idea she could do that. Obviously I learned to always buckle her in because those babies can do some pretty crazy things!
No blame…just hearts brimmed over with love for our little ones who are thankfully okay!!
Have a wonderful weekend with your family
Aw, just saw this!
I’m so sorry for sweet Eli, and for your hubby, I’m sure he feels bad, but there was nothing he could do!