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Random things about me

Tuesday, March 25th, 2008

By Beth

In an effort to "repay" you for the many, many random thoughts and pieces of information you have all left for me on this post, I thought I would do the same for you.

So, I write this post, a post listing random things about me, as a distraction, a reminder of other things that are going on in my life, other things that have happened in my life. Thank you to all of you who have left comments here, I do hope you continue. If you haven’t left one, please do, I’d love to hear from you.

Here you go:

-Last night I had a dream about two girls that used to live in our neighborhood growing up. They did not have any siblings, I could never understand what that must be like, not having any brothers or sisters. But now I wonder if it was decision their parents made or if they could not have other children. When I was younger I was oblivious to the fact that people could not have children. I think I dreamed of the two girls because one of them sent me a card when she learned of James and Jake. I hadn’t heard from her since high school. If you ever learn that an old friend of yours has lost a loved one, send them a card, no matter how long it’s been, your thoughtfulness will mean the world to the person. I guarantee it.

-When I was a senior in high school, I was the editor of my school newspaper.

-Last May a tornado hit our area. I was home alone with the kids, they were napping and it was all I could to run into their rooms and grab them out their beds and run down to the basement. They were scared, I was scared. I remember shaking for hours. Thankfully, we were safe. Now, anytime there is a storm, I completely prepare for the worst, I have shoes ready, my cell phone ready and water ready.

-I love summer. Hot, beautiful, sunny, green, glorious summer.

-I don’t think I’m supposed to live in the Midwest. I dream of moving to a place that is warm year round.

-I often find myself watching Will & Grace and Friends reruns on my TV in my bedroom before bed. I love it.

-This is my 701st post.

-I love taking pictures. If I could choose a profession right now, I would choose to be a photographer. One of my favorite non-people pictures that I have taken is this one:

and I love the textures in this picture:

-Brian and I used to play hours and hours of Unreal Tournament on our computers before having children. We’d spend hours into the night shooting and sniping and killing each other. It was awesome. We invited many people to play with us, almost all of them became addicted, too. I played last year, after that I had a nightmare about death. I haven’t played since.

-In August of 2001, Brian told me he was ready to have children, we were at a Cubs game. I never knew if I was ready or not, I just left it in his hands knowing that when he was ready, I would be ready. We started trying the following month and I got pregnant in May of 2002.

-I got pregnant again in May of 2003. Ariel and Racecar are 360 days apart, I love that. So much.

-Brian and I honeymooned in Barbados. It took us all day to get there, when we finally arrived I cried because I missed my family. I’ve been romantic ever since.

-My highest weight was 220 or 226, I can’t remember. I now weigh five pounds more than I did when I got pregnant with the twins. My weight today is 169.

-I usually love food, but right now I don’t care about it.

-I believe the reason I started blogging was so I could journal about dealing with the loss of James and Jake, I started blogging in January of 2006 to keep in touch with my friends who lived across the country. One of my favorite comments was by a reader named Josh, who agrees with my belief, this is what he wrote: You know, the inspiration to create this blog to share your
happy, fun times, when sadness wasn’t present, was a miracle from God. God is
truly wonderful. He provides the healing before the sickness even strikes. This
cathartic potential has been present all along, and it’s only now sadly reaching
its true creation’s purpose. It’s so very true.

Some of the comments left here are the most beautiful things I have ever read.

-I have many friends who do not know about my blog.

-These are some of my favorite blog posts that I have written:

Running Scared
Some Pig
Women are from Mars, Men are just stupid
12 Years Ago Today

-The kids and I slept until 9 am this morning, we were in our pajamas until noon, I showered and finally finished getting ready at 2 pm, just to stay at home and do nothing. I love spring break.

-I do not think I am a good writer, I think I am a good blogger.

-I hate oranges. But I enjoy orange juice. When I was pregnant with the twins, I would drinks tons and tons of orange juice, now when I see it or drink it, it reminds me of them. That does not necessarily make me sad, I enjoy the few memories I have with them.

-I love coffee. Since losing the twins I have been drinking a lot of coffee, my day is sometimes better when I have a McDonald’s coffee in my hand.

-I played softball for many years, I was a catcher.

I could go on and on and on, but I will stop now, somethings have to remain a mystery.

As always, thank you for listening. If you haven’t already, tell me something about you, okay?

Categories: Being a Mama, Entertainment, Family, JJF, Marriage, That's Life

14,775

Wednesday, February 13th, 2008

By Beth

I had an OB appointment today. If it seems I see my OB weekly, it’s because I do. BUT, after today I wait a whole two weeks before going back. Luckily, each visit has been fun. There is nothing better than hearing these boys in my belly.

My doctor received the results from my holter monitor that I wore last week. I should stop and tell you that my heart palpitations miraculously stopped last Friday. Ever since then I have felt pretty normal. The monitor recorded my heart rate for 24 hours and found that my heart had an irregular rhythm 14,775 times. That’s a lot. And although I do feel better, I go in for an echo cardiogram next week, just to make sure my heart is handling this increased blood volume okay.

Today I am 17 weeks, 4 days pregnant and I am measuring 21 weeks.

Tonight, the kids, Brian and I are going out to dinner to "celebrate" Valentine’s Day. We also "celebrated" this past Saturday by taking the kids to see a movie for the first time ever. We saw Alvin and the Chipmunks and they loved every single second of our time there. It was worth the $40 we spent for the 90 minutes we were there. At least, I think it was. We would go to dinner tomorrow night but Brian is doing the most romantic thing tomorrow. He is leaving for a business trip to San Francisco and leaving me alone, pregnant with twins, with the kids and a house on the market until Monday. Just call him Casanova.

No, I’m not bitter. Not bitter at all.

Categories: Marriage, Pregnant with twins!, That's Life

Once upon a time…

Wednesday, January 9th, 2008

By Beth

Once upon a time, there lived two bookshelves tucked inside two preschooler’s closets that were FILLED NEATLY with books.

And then one dark day, the bookshelves were empty.

And there were piles of books all over the house.

The piles looked like this:

The "maid" of the house, her name is "Mommy", was deeply disturbed by the piles of books all over her home because she had just tucked them NEATLY on their bookshelves five days before.

So, to make herself feel better she bought these:

And the husband of the house, we’ll call him "Awesome", served Mommy a Devils Food Ice Cream Donut on top of a ~~massive~~ dainty pile of soft chocolate ice cream.

And pretty soon she forgot about the piles of books everywhere and they lived happily ever after.

The End.

Categories: Being a Mama, Child's Play, Marriage

Gigawho? Megawhat?

Tuesday, December 11th, 2007

By Beth

Brian and I started dating a few weeks after we graduated from high school in 1995. A few months into our summer romance, our four year, long distance relationship began. It was painful and sad, but thanks to the telephone and writing letters, we could keep in touch. Except, for us to talk on the phone it cost us a bajillion dollars every single month, so we tried to write each other letters, as in letters sent via the United States Postal Service every other day. It worked out really well, especially since the days of communicating through chat room, e-mail or cell phone seemed light years away.

I can remember when Brian presented to me, at some point in the mid to late nineties, the idea of e-mail. He seemed excited and knowledgeable about the whole concept and I should have trusted him, especially since he was working towards a Computer Science degree, but I couldn’t help but feel suspect. I thought he was trying to find a way to get out of sending these letters, but I reluctantly accepted his offer for him to create an e-mail address from some foreign service called Hotmail. And we would send e-mails to each other.

And then we would receive them three days later. I would sit down and check my e-mail and FINALLY, after checking for three days, over 100 times, there would be something in my inbox. And it would say something like "did you get this? isn’t it great?" And that would be it.

That form of communication frustrated me and I needed to correspond with this love of mine as often as possible, so I asked that we still correspond by actually sitting down and writing letters. And he complied because he’s wonderful like that.

And as you know, technology improved. I remember the first time I felt like I was being stalked by technology. We were newlyweds living in a high rise apartment in Chicago and I had run to Target. Target to me was a brand new thing and I adored it and I remember on this particular occasion I had spent like $70. I was freaking out that I had spent so much. These days, if I spent only $70, Brian would send me a thank you card. But back then, to me, I felt like I had just done something very, very wrong.

I walked into the apartment with my goods in my hands and Brian said "wow, I can’t believe you spent SEVENTY DOLLARS at Target."

I froze and thought, "OH MY GOD, Target called him."

But no, he had checked his account on-line and in the ten minutes it had taken me to get home, his account was already telling on me.

It took me a long to to forgive his computer for ratting me out. In fact, it took me a long to embrace technology. Brian still laughs at me that when he first had a laptop and provided us with wireless access, I was all like "that’s just dumb, who needs to sit with a computer on their lap on the couch? No, thank you!"

But he insisted and put it on my lap and it hasn’t left since.

Yes, things sure have changed, just yesterday I placed an enormous order with Amazon.com to help my Christmas shopping along and yesterday I received FIVE e-mails saying my items had shipped.

I appreciate these changes and advancements in technology, but what I appreciate most is having a box full of letters from Brian, sitting in a box in the basement that will last forever and ever.

I’m truly grateful that I’m not ten years younger.

Categories: Marriage, That's Life

Thirty-One

Wednesday, November 28th, 2007

By Beth

Tomorrow, Brian turns thirty-one.

And thankfully, this year will be the easiest birthday so far. No begging him to tell me what he wants, I won’t be needing to dash into Best Buy or Circuit City or even Barnes and Noble.

It’s all been taken care of it. All I need to do is buy a cake from Coldstone Creamery and make dinner.

Because he bought his own gift in October.

A 56 inch gift. It’s my most favorite birthday of his so far. Maybe next year he’ll buy a finished basement.